Important Notice

Good Morning everyone!
With the 'Women Left Waiting' blog event having come & gone I wanted to take the time to update everyone on what has been happening over on my side of the blogosphere.


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As some may be aware my computer recently crashed and we found that it was unrepairable. After spending a week of using my brother-in-law's while he was at work, we decided to fix the DH's old laptop. Seems all it needed was the battery from mine. (thank goodness for them both being Toshiba) The DH switched out the battery but due to the adapter having a different plug that goes into the laptop, we have to switch it back into mine to charge it. Oh the joys of technology! I really can't complain though because at least I am able to get on here now. Sure, with limited time but it's WAY better than not being able to get online at all.

On a very bright side, however, around the middle of the month I should be getting a new laptop. I've decided to go with a Netbook & am VERY excited! So please hang in there with me. I have tons of posts lined up to share but it may be slow rolling until I get the Netbook.


Thanks for hanging in there with me!
& be sure to enter one or all of the giveaways listed to the right!!

♥,
Jessica

Hero on My Wrist Giveaway

Wanna win this lovely bracelet?

About Sabrina & Hero On My Wrist
I run a small business called 'Hero On My Wrist' out of my home. I am a military spouse, my husband has been active duty army for 8 years and he just came home this past summer from a deployment in Afghanistan. I started making bracelets while he was deployed and initially they were to show support for our hero. People would approach me and ask me about the bracelets all the time and I asked around to see if any one would purchase one and the responses were a definite yes. Of course in today's economy and being a military family extra income is always nice but truly when I receive emails from families who want to raise awareness for a loved one or for a family who has lost their hero and would like to commemorate their loss it makes me so proud to know that I am making them something that will always be near to their heart. My business has become quite popular right now and I have a waiting list that is approaching 8 months. My fan base on Facebook has been amazing and I never imagined my business becoming so popular in the military community. I love what I do and every chance I get, I donate to military related organizations to give back. These organizations are important in a lot of my customers lives and the military family in general. I have made thousands of bracelets and shipped all over the world. I know my business can only go up from here and it makes me proud to know that so many are supporting their heroes. Thanks! Sabrina

I was lucky enough to come across Sabrina & her awesome website by pure chance. Her bracelets are unique and there is such a wide variety of things that she creates. Some of my favorites are the Coastal Cottage Collection (an adorable bracelet made of fabric that can even be patriotic or incorporate a piece of your soldier's uniform), The Paracord Heart & Ribbon Bracelets (paracord is used to add a simple heart and/or ribbon to your paracord bracelet), & the Awareness Bracelets (paracord is used to create bracelets supporting causes like Breast Cancer awareness & Infant Loss). These are only a few of the many designs that Sabrina offers. Custom creations are also available, promising that you will find something perfectly fitting for you. They make wonderful gifts too!

(Above: Patriotic glass pearl bracelet with flag, ribbon and heart charms. Also features red, white and blue crystals throughout. Below: Rosebud fabric with an added 'Hero On My Wrist' Button . Part of the Coastal Cottage Collection)



Enter to win the Peace/Love paracord bracelet pictured at the top of this page!!



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**This giveaway will end 6/7 11pm EST & the winner will be chosen 6/8. After being notified via email, the winner will then have 48 hours to get back in touch before another winner is picked.

I received a couple bracelets from 'Hero On My Wrist' for review.
The above opinions are my own and no monetary exchange was made for my opinions.

Kristen- A Memorial Day Tribute

Memorial Day has always been about remembering Soldiers who have died in service to our country. It originally began as a day to recognize fallen Union and Confederate Soldiers.  And it has expanded with each subsequent war the US has become involved in. It’s not about patriotism, it’s not a time for fireworks and celebrations; it’s a time of remembrance. It’s a time to pay tribute.

Originally called Decoration Day, Memorial Day is a day of remembrance for those who have died in service to our country. It was first widely observed on May 30, 1868, to commemorate the sacrifices of Civil War soldiers, by proclamation of General John A. Logan of the Grand Army of the Republic, an organization of former sailors and soldiers. 

During the first national celebration, General James Garfield made a speech at Arlington National Cemetery, after which 5,000 participants helped to decorate the graves of the more than 20,000 Union and Confederate soldiers who were buried there. This event was inspired by local observances of the day that had taken place in several towns throughout America in the three years since the Civil War. By the late 1800s, many more cities and communities had begun to observe Memorial Day, and after World War I, it became an occasion for honoring those who had died in all America’s wars.

Since the late 1950's on the Thursday before Memorial Day, the 1,200 soldiers of the 3rd United States Army Infantry Regiment place small American flags at each of the more than 260,000 gravestones and about 7,300 niches at Arlington National Cemetery's columbarium. Another 13,500 flags are placed at the Soldier's and Airmen's Home National Cemetery.  They then patrol 24 hours a day during the weekend to ensure that each flag remains standing.  Most other National Cemeteries have followed suit.

To help Americans re-educate and remind them of the true meaning of Memorial Day, the "National Moment of Remembrance" resolution was passed in December, 2000 which asks that at 3 p.m. local time on Memorial Day, for all Americans "To voluntarily and informally observe in their own way a Moment of remembrance and respect, pausing from whatever they are doing for a moment of silence or listening to "Taps" .

When I think of Memorial Day, my first thoughts are to my own father.  My dad is a military guy- in fact he and 5 of his brothers all served in the military.  My Dad grew up in the sugar cane fields on the southern coast of Puerto Rico.  When he was about 10 years old he immigrated to New Jersey where his father and mother made a better life for their children.  My Dad grew up listening to NY Mets games on the radio, listening to his father tell him what a great country this was.

My father continued those same values in his own family of 7 kids.  I am the eldest and I cannot remember a time when my father didn't express his great love of country.  He was in the US Army 82nd AirBorne Division.  I remember being on base and hearing the bugle in the afternoon and my dad teaching us to stop and place our hands on our hearts as we listened to the National Anthem.  I remember having great BBQs where my dad would invite everyone and anyone to come and celebrate with us on the 4th of July.  I remember when he retired that he kept that same love of country as he flew both the US flag as well as the 82nd flag.  I married an AF guy and he now flies an AF flag.  My brother in law is a retired Army Ranger so he flies the Army flag, too.  My father loves his country!

Every year, since I was a little girl, he watches the National Memorial Day Concert on PBS.  Now we continue that tradition in our home.  We have a nice BBQ but we always remember to speak with our children about the great freedoms they enjoy and the great land in which they live, that these freedoms didn't come easily, in fact came a great sacrifice of both blood and treasure.  But not to simply remember but to honor them.  They need to be treated with the respect they deserve from those whose freedoms they fought and often died for.

Here are a few ways we've celebrated Memorial Day.  Perhaps there are a few you'd like to share as well.
  • visit cemeteries and place flags or flowers on the graves of our fallen heroes.
  • visit memorials.
  • fly the U.S. Flag if you don't already
  • fly the 'POW/MIA Flag'
  • participate in the "National Moment of Remembrance": at 3 p.m. to pause and think upon the true meaning of the day
  • renew your pledge to find a way to give back to the widows, widowers, and orphans of our fallen dead, and to aid the disabled veterans and their families

I call upon all Americans to come alongside these valiant men and women to offer them the healing balm of friendship. Don’t be reluctant to reach out and offer tangible aid and support to the sons and daughters of America who are returning home from the battlefields to our neighborhoods. While our government can and must facilitate their rehabilitation, you can play a crucial role in bringing about a recovery of the soul which comes through individual acts of kindness and friendship. Recognizing our wounded Americans for their service alone is not enough! We must walk with them on the path to wholeness of body, mind and spirit. Let us devote ourselves to being there for them each step of the way. Anointing them with friendship blesses and supports each of them in ways that make for a better America.
— General Colin L. Powell

~Kristen

Beth - A Military Mom

I remember praying
3 John 3:4 “I have no greater joy that to hear that my children are walking in the truth.”
then she made a decision to follow Christ
I remember her baptism on Easter Sunday
then at 14 years of age she joined the Plymouth Explorers
“I want to be a police officer”, she says.
I remember her going off to college when she was just 17 years old
then she said, “Dad and mom I want to join the National Guard.”
I remember being there as she was sworn in a few months before graduation for high school before she was 18 years old
then we sent her off to boot camp in July 2007
she is my youngest
we are best friends
we enjoy shopping and Friday night pizza and coffee and reading the bible together
she loves Jesus and she loves people and people love her right back
she goes to school
she works hard
and on weekends
she’s in the guard
we wear each other’s clothes
and we both like to take notes
we text and we phone
and most of the time
we never want to be alone
now this coming year 2012
she’ll be 23 and she’s come home to tell
“Mom, I want you to be okay with deployment for me for I know your have always prayed …
For God’s will and His Way! I remember praying.
I love you mom.”
I love you more Ashley! Mom
I am on the left, Ashley is in the center and her older sister Kelley is on the right.
Ashley is giving both her sister and I flowers for Mom’s day 2011

Chocolate Cake Recipe from Holley

We all have family recipes that are passed down and we LOVE. Here is a twist on a family classic from my childhood. I am always looking for ways to make things healthier and easier to enjoy.

Less fat AND less sugar but still tastes GREAT? That definitely makes me enjoy it more. ;)

MOIST CHOCOLATE CAKE


Dry ingredients:
3 cups whole wheat flour
1 1/2 cups sugar
1/2 cup cocoa powder
1 tsp salt
2 tsp baking soda
Wet ingredients:
1/2 cup oil
1/2 cup applesauce
1 cup milk + 1 tsp apple cider vinegar
(I use almond milk in mine)
1 tsp vanilla
2 eggs

Mix all the dry ingredients together and then add in the wet ingredients. After that is mixed well, add 1 cup boiling water and finish mixing!

You can bake the cake in a 9x13 cake pan for 30 mins at 350 degrees or you can split it into 9" round cake pans and bake at 350 degrees for approx 25 mins to make a layered cake.

Make sure you don't over bake it so it stays nice and moist!



I made a filling using a 1/2 box of Junket Raspberry Danish Dessert with raspberries folded in. Then topped it with chocolate frosting. DELISH!


Bring this to your next get together for a moist chocolaty treat!

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For more of my "healthified" take on things, visit me at Lunges and Lashes!

Enjoy!

Holley

PB/Apricot balls by Holley

I am a fitness junkie so I am always looking for more ways to get protein in my diet. If it is doubled as a sweet treat that is just an added bonus. I love these because they are perfect as bite sized treats or pre-workout snacks, depending on when you decide to snag one. ;)




Here is what you will need.




1/4 cup chopped apricots
1/4 cup quick oats
1/4 cup PB
1 tsp cinnamon
1 tsp agave
1 tsp melted coconut oil
1/4 cup protein powder


(I also added a splash of almond milk to help mine stick together.)


Then you mix it all up, easy peasy and roll them into ballz!


This recipe makes 10 ballz with about 98 calories each, 4 grams of fat and 6 grams of protein.


The PB/apricot combo is yummy for sure. I can't really think of anything I have had with PB that I DID'T think was good. I mean really... can you???


These little ballz made for a perfect snack along side my apple.




If you are more of a pb and chocolate kind of person, you can also try this recipe.


Here's to healthy fats in our healthy snacks!


Enjoy!


Erika- DIY Nautical Themed Nursery Craft

Here at Clutterhome, we've been super busy preparing a nursery for a new bundle of poop joy. Since we are a proud Navy family, we decided to go for a nautical themed nursery and have been trying the DIY route. Many of our projects could easily be tweaked as decorations for the home, instead of a nursery.

Flashback to the early 19th century: Maritime communications could be difficult from a distance, but ships at sea do need a way to relay messages to one another. Enter semaphore. It's a visual system that uses flags to communicate. Different flag positions represent different letters or messages.

We wanted to incorporate this Naval tradition into our son's room. I just love this art I found on Etsy.

But it's not quite the size we were looking for. We wanted something a little smaller, and with a little color. We decided to make something similar, but spell out our son's name. You could make your own that says WELCOME, your LAST NAME, or even something cute like LOVE.

I borrowed this image from Braingle.com to create my art.

With a little Photoshop magic, I cut and paste the letters I needed into a new file. Here's a sample that's similar to the one with my son's name. Step-by-step, I added each semaphore letter. When I was done, I decided I wanted a little more color and added a border.

Because I was feelin' fancy, I printed it on photo paper that I found buried under some books in the closet, popped that sucker in a frame (also a closet find), and voila! Instant nautical art, Clutterholic Erika style.


BABY

Kristen- Recipes for Memorial Day BBQ

Everyone welcome Kristen back! If you would like to read more posts from her please hop on over & check out her blog: Air Force Wife

We had a great BBQ with my husband's boos who flew out from DC for a short visit.  We heated up the pool, set out lots of camp chairs, threw lights around the palm trees, and fired up the grill.

We had a great time and everyone pitched in to make some sides while our family took care of the meats and drinks. We had BBQ chicken- thighs and drumsticks, steak tips, and natural casing hot dogs and bratwursts.
In the summer months we try to grill as much as possible to help cut down on the heat that comes from the oven making the AC work harder.  If you do have to cook, do it in the morning or in a crock pot.

BBQ chicken is so easy to make!  I learned a few tricks to making the chicken really moist and fabulous tasting.
Whatever sauce you like, whether it's the original, honey, spicy or a mix of both, I bake the chicken in the oven with the sauce in deep disposable aluminum pans covered in aluminum foil to keep the moisture in.  When they're completely cooked, throw them on the grill with some left over sauce, and crisp them up.  They're delicious!
You can do the same thing with Steak Tips.  I marinade our tips in Zesty Italian dressing for a few hours in the refrigerator and then cook them in the oven, covered with foil, and then drop them on the grill to sear them.  They are so soft and moist because of the dressing- they almost melt in your mouth.

If you like kabobs, marinade the meat in the Italian dressing as well as the veggies you like in the same dressing in another bowl- sanitation first!  The bell peppers (red, orange, yellow, green) taste really good marinaded in Italian.  My family will eat just the peppers by themselves as a veggie side. :) Zucchini, yellow squash, and red onions or the pearl onions are great for kabobs. 


We also make a fruit salad that people ask about every time.  And it's so easy!  we simply cut up strawberries, bananas, blueberries, use a couple small cans of mandarin oranges, peeled kiwi, pineapple (save the juce to soak the sliced bananas in so they don't brown), apple sliced are good, and any other fruit your family likes. Gather it all in a big bowl.  Mix in either a raspberry or strawberry yogurt- 1 or 2 depending on how big your salad is.  And serve chilled. Some people like to add walnuts and others like shredded coconut.

Another family favorites my kids can't live without is "Green Stuff".  You probably know it better as Pistachio Pudding Salad.
 Ingredients:
1 (16 ounce) container frozen whipped topping, thawed
1 (3.4 ounce) package instant pistachio pudding mix
3 cups miniature marshmallows
1 (20 ounce) can crushed pineapple, drained
1/2 cup chopped pistachios or walnuts
(optional) Garnish with Maraschino Cherries

Directions:

Drain the juice from your can of pineapple. Thaw the whipped topping slightly, it does not have to be completely thawed it will thaw when your mixing it. Combine all the ingredients stirring gently to fold together. Do not make the pudding, just fold in the dry mix.
Garnish with cherries and some crumbled nuts. You can use pecans, walnuts or pistachios.
Keep refrigerated until ready to serve, can be easily doubled.

Another crowd pleaser is my Mom's famous Icebox Cake.  It's made with graham crackers and chocolate fudge pudding.  Simple to make!  Layer chocolate pudding (chocolate fudge instant pudding from the box works best just follow the box directions to make the pudding) and graham crakers like you would layer a lasagna ending with pudding on top. Chill for at least an hour.  You can either top with crumbled graham crackers or strawberries or simply serve with whipped topping. Other variations I've seen include the strawberries inside or any other fruit.  Some like to make an eclair icebox cake with a custard as an additional layer.


Another favorites salad of ours comes from a Taste of Home recipe I found years ago, called Italian Basil Pasta Salad

Ingredients:
1 package 16 ounces) bow tie pasta
2 cups grape tomatoes
7 ounces fresh mozzarella cheese, cubed
1 medium sweet yellow pepper, chopped
1 small red onion, chopped
1/2 cup pickled banana pepper rings
1 can 2-1/4 ounces) sliced ripe olives, drained
4 thin slices hard salami, diced
1/2 cup fresh basil leaves, thinly sliced


Dressing
3/4 cup olive oil
3/4 cup red wine vinegar
1 garlic clove, minced
1 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon pepper
1/4 teaspoon dried basil

Directions

Cook pasta according to package directions; drain and rinse in cold water. In a large bowl, combine the pasta, tomatoes, cheese, yellow pepper, onion, pepper rings, olives, salami and basil.
In a small bowl, whisk the dressing ingredients. Pour over salad and toss to coat. Cover and refrigerate for at least 1 hour before serving.

These are only a few of the many recipes out there you can try for your Memorial Day BBQ.  I'd love you hear about your favorites!

Scentual Magic Candle- Giveaway


Scentual Magic Candle is a husband and wife run company out of Williamstown, KY. They offer an extensive variety of soy tarts, soy candles, hand dipped incense, and much more. Many scents are available. The one that seems the most appealing to me is being the 'Birthday Cake' scent. However, their scents range from Fruity Loops to Jungle Love. There is no doubt in my mind that you will find a scent fitting to your personality.

To check out everything they offer simply give their Etsy shop a visit.


Enter to Win

However, to show their support of those left waiting for someone in our US Military, they are offering up a free Black Metal tea light burner with 1 bag of tea lights. With that comes the following tarts: 1 birthday cake, 1 Fruity Loops, 1 LoveSpell, 1 Butterscotch Pudding, 1 Fuzzy Navel, and 1 Honeysuckle.


Please leave a comment for each entry.
For example: If something is worth 2 entries, leave 2 separate comments.
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MANDATORY ENTRY:
-Visit Scentual Magic Candles and tell me which scent name reminds you the most of your Military "Soldier".
Include your email address in at least this entry.

Optional Entry:
-Like Scentual Magic Candles on FACEBOOK & let them know that Sugar in My Grits sent ya. (+2 entries)

***This giveaway will end at 11pm EST on June 7th. The winner will be chosen by use of random.org & announced June 8th after being contacted via email. After being contacted, the winner will have 48 hours to respond.

Love You More Than You know- Giveaway

Love You More Thank You Know is a book made up of 45 stories of Mothers sending their Daughters & Sons off to war. Put together by Janie Reinart & Mary Anne Mayer (who also share their personal stories), this book reaches out and gives a better look into the life of having a loved one deployed. The changes, the raw emotions, the fears, & the immense amount of pride that is involved in this life changing experience. Each story is different but true. There are stories that make you shed tears and moments that will leave you almost breathless. These are real stories, shared by real moms.

Being a Military Mom is not a must to reading this book. I was sent my own personal copy to read & I highly recommend it to anyone who has someone close to them deployed. I would also like to recommend it to anyone who works with, lives close to, or is just wanting a better understanding of the sacrifice these families are making. It is not only the Service Men & Women who are fighting their way through this war. They may have our backs as they fight this war but somewhere back home, there is a Mom, Dad, Sister, Cousin, Wife, and/or Child who is also fighting to stay strong and have their Soldier's back.

To read an excerpt from the book & to get more information on the "Love You More Than You Know" blog, please check out my post HERE.


Win a Copy of the Book
Please leave a comment below as your entry.
Include your email address with your entry so that I can get in touch with you if you win.
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MANDATORY ENTRY:
-What has been your toughest struggle as a Military Mom, Wife, Girlfriend, etc with a loved one deployed? What was your best method of getting through the day to day?

***This giveaway will end at 11pm EST on June 7th. The winner will be chosen by use of randomly & announced June 8th after being contacted via email. After being contacted, the winner will have 48 hours to respond.

I received a copy of this book to read. The opinions are solely mine and no monetary exchange was made for my opinions.

Love You More Than You Know

Love You More Than You Know is a book, as well as a blog. The book is filled with 45 wonderful & heart felt stories of Mothers sending their Sons and Daughters off to war. The ladies behind this inspirational book are Janie Reinart and Mary Anne Mayer, who also share their stories. Being a Military Wife, I was still touched by reading each individual story. This book is focused on Military Moms but gives a better understanding of living with a family member deployed to anyone who takes the time to read it. You can find more information and purchase a copy of the book HERE.


Excerpt from Love You More Than You Know:
"Boots on the Ground" by Janie Reinart.
The sweet mournful sound of taps honored my father’s leaving, echoing in the cold December morning. The silence was shattered by a color guard firing a twenty-one-gun salute. Our country’s flag fluttered, as it lay draped over the casket of a hero, Joseph Vayo, a Navy veteran of WWII. Reverently, the color guard folded this bright symbol of freedom into a triangle. My son, Specialist Joseph Reinart, Ohio Army National Guard, stepped briskly forward to receive the flag. Turning to my mother, Joe said, “ On behalf of the President of the United States of America, I present you with this flag for your husband’s faithful service to our country. May God bless you, and I love you, Grandma.”

Just weeks later, Joe was leaving. My son, my father’s namesake was being deployed to the Middle East to serve his country. Time stopped. Night ran into day. I took off my watch and put on a lapel pin—the kind that holds a small picture in a frame—a picture of my soldier boy in his National Guard uniform. I wore Joe’s picture over my heart everyday during the long fifteen months of his active duty and deployment for Operation Iraqi Freedom.

Families in the military always dread the unexpected phone call or knock at the door for fear of bad news about their soldier. Joe called. I listened to the quiet agony in his voice. “Mom, we were on a convoy and thought we were lost. We pulled off the road and another US convoy went in front of us. We decided we weren’t lost after all and hooked up behind that other convoy. We went down the road a few miles and the truck in front of me was blown up. Mom that was supposed to be me. If we wouldn’t have pulled off—my Humvee would have been destroyed. I listened and prayed that I would say something comforting as my son continued to tell how he was spared and lived to see his 23rd birthday the next day.

Joe had been in Iraq for seven months when I received this letter. I carried it around with me for the rest of his deployment.

Dear Dad and Mom,

Today is August 9. Up until the past 6 months, I have lived my life naively and unaware of the reality of the world. I have seen life and death and that is the tip of the iceberg. Although I am not on a trail in the jungles of Vietnam or in some trench in France during the Second World War, I have seen enough to make me realize life should not be taken for granted. Living and coping have become a parallel term to myself and most of the people around me. My life has changed, and I have a long journey ahead, not just the next grueling 6 months in a combat zone thousands of miles away from the sanity of the United States, but the road of my life. I have learned and watched true friends be there for me, and watched others fade.

One thing that remains certain in my mind is that family is like a cornerstone of a skyscraper. The support you have given me is second to none. I am more grateful for this than words can express. I love you both and the strong unit our family has become. I look up to you both for the people you are, and the people you’ve made us kids. Sometimes I want to cry out for help or breakdown and quit but inside me, instilled in my mind are the values and will to drive on that you taught me.

I think a lot of nights, restless nights, of the days to come. I ponder and daydream of the good and the bad and the anxiety weighs on me like a ton of bricks. Will I make it back? Will I be so different from when I left? What will I do with my life? Will I be successful? Will I be happy? All I know that is certain is you, and I rely on that fact alone to get me through the sweltering reality I live in. I love you and cherish you for bringing me into the world, raising me, helping me along my journey through life. I look forward to brighter days of picnics, and card games, and golf and chess, and church and things that families do together. I love you deeply, more than you know. Your son, Joe


By the grace of God we made it through the year. Joe’s homecoming was in the crowded cafeteria at a school in Youngstown. Teary eyed, my Mom presented Joe with my Father’s flag for his faithful service to our country. I was changed and humbled knowing that our soldiers are sacrificing so much for us each day.


(Left:Joe & his Grandmother, Right:Joe & his Mother)


Share your story, Find Support

What does it mean to be a mother . . . a wife . . . a sister. . . a grandmother. . . a women left waiting for someone serving in our US military? We can answer that question.

-Like dear friends chatting on the front porch or neighbors visiting over the back fence, we want to hear your story. We believe that writing our stories helped us deal with the swirling emotions we felt when our family members were deployed. The woman that contributed stories to this blog and our book agree.

This blog is a place to write and share your experience. With outstretched hands, we invite you in. Come sit down and write. We understand what you are going through. We are listening. Be loud and proud!

Tell your hero's story. Find writing tips HERE
Send stories to: storiesfromwomen@gmail.com

Thanks.
Love,
Janie

Wacky Cookie Company Giveaway

The Wacky Cookie Company is an amazing company that offer many wonderful cookies. These cookies come in many designs and flavors. Everything from Darth Vader Lego Star Wars to these:

Rainbow Tea Cookies
I highly recommend swinging by & checking out the large selection of yummy treats they have to offer. You can do so HERE.
Military discounts of 15% are ALWAYS available to all active duty and spouses of active duty members.. Code: MILITARY


One Lucky Reader will win a FREE Jar of the Rainbow Tea Cookies.
Please leave a comment for each entry.
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MANDATORY ENTRY:
-Visit the cookie shop over at The Wacky Cookie Company & let me know, below, which item would would purchase to send your Soldier in a care package.
Include your email address in at least this entry.

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-'Like' The Wacky Cookie Company via FACEBOOK & leave them love. (+3 entries)
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***This giveaway will end at 11pm EST on June 7th. The winner will be chosen by use of random.org & announced June 8th after being contacted via email. After being contacted, the winner will have 48 hours to respond.

Erika- Life in Japan

"Gaijin" is the Japanese word for foreigners.  That's us!  Our family relocated to Japan in the summer of 2010 thanks to the US Navy and it is by far the best place I have ever lived.
Traditional Japanese Mikoshi parade

I grew up in a little bitty farming town, and love the small town lifestyle.  Because of that, we opted to live on a smaller housing base about 15 miles from my husband's actual duty station.  It's perfect.  The families are very close, and we're always here to support each other through extended deployments and the day-to-day activities of running our households.
This is the view from my house:  12,389 ft of the glorious Mount Fuji, or Fuji-san as our host nation calls it.
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We were a little intimidated upon arrival.  The country is heavily dependent on public transportation because the train and subway system is very efficient and reliable.  Luckily, it's also a very simple system to learn and most stations near big cities (our area) are in Japanese but also spelled out using our alphabet.
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The dining experiences can't be beat!  We love sushi, but also really enjoy trying restaurants that specialize in other Asian cuisine (something we've never had in any other places we've lived).  We're partial to Thai food, but also visit a local Indian Curry shop on an almost-weekly basis.  There is so much within walking distance, or it's just a short train ride away!  You can easily get almost anywhere using public transportation.  We didn't own a car for the first 6 months we were here, but finally had to break down and by one due to my job and odd commuting hours.
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Of course, there are culture differences that you need to adjust to.  For the most part, the Japanese are very polite and considerate of others.  The public buses and trains are pretty quiet, and if people are talking they're doing so very quietly.  It's very refreshing to not be surrounded by loud and obnoxious people who are oblivious to others!  They also use a different style of toilet.  It's more like a hole in the ground and you have to squat to use the restroom.  HOWEVER, I have lived here for a year and never used one!  You can find a "western" style (normal!) toilet in most public places.
My favorite part of living in Japan is the rich culture and long standing traditions.  Almost every weekend you can find something to visit, a festival to attend, or just go siteseeing and wander into something beautiful.

If given the opportunity to live overseas again, we will jump at it!  The base is a tremendous source of support and resources to help you learn your way around and enjoy your time. There are so many MWR sponsored tours to sign up for, base hosted "Friendship Festivals" to encourage interaction with the locals, and there is a wonderful network of thousands of military families

Kristen- Craft Ideas w/ the Kids

Kids love crafts!  They love to make things with their hands- whether it's finger painting or making paper mache or simply cutting out pictures.  We've always had great success incorporating crafts into our family BBQs.  Having crafts gives parents a bit of a break to have adult conversation, and a chance to grab some munchies without little ones vying for a spot on Mom's lap.


Some of our favorite crafts are the most easy. You can go to almost any craft store for the supplies but we love Oriental Trading- we can get so much in bulk for really cheap.
  • Decorating your own hat- We got this idea from a First Night we spent in Monterey, California at the Naval Post Graduate School. You can find white foam visors or the canvas caps anywhere.  Or you can simply take white cardstock or poster board to make tall or cone shaped "crowns".  We gathered a bunch of foam stickers (patriotic themed of course), some puff paints, glitter glue, furry or glittery pipe cleaners to make antennae. If you use posterboard/cardstock you can use markers and stickers.  Here are a few ideas of crafts to get.  It always helpful to have a few hat already made (or bought) for those who have difficulty with small crafts or even for the adults in your group.
When we've had unit BBQ's for Armed Forces Day or July 4th we've bought plain white t-shirts and let the kids decorate them with puff paints or other markers/paints.  They like having a "team jersey" that the kids all wear- sort of like their own uniform.

  • Another fun idea is to make thank you cards for troop currently deployed.  This is a great opportunity to talk about service and especially if your kids are military kids, they know what it's about.  My kids have loved doing this. 
For older kids- preteens/teens- or even adults: There's a lady with a great mission- to make blank homemade cards (birthday, thinking of you, mother's day, father's day, July 4th themes) and send them to the deployed soldiers to choose from to send to their own families back home.  There is no Hallmark store where they can go to get a card to mail to their kids, wife, or parents.  Click Cards for Soldiers
  • If you really want to send a nice tribute- I'm a member of a group called Marine Comfort Quilts.  This group, founded by a Marine Mom, makes tied quilts that are then given to families of those military members who have died in Iraq and Afghanistan.  www.marinecomfortquilts.us  They are always asking for quilts square that are signed by members of the military and the general public. The quilts are put together with squares from all across the country and delivered to a Chaplain who they takes it to the family. Messages can be written on the squares to thank the families for their sacrifice. It's been another great teaching moment for my kids about real sacrifice and ways we can honor those who've given the ultimate sacrifice.  And adults can sign the squares, too.

**Whatever you do, keep it simple.  If there's too much to do or too many pieces then things can get real messy, real fast.   Oh! And make sure to have fun!!

What to do, what to do?

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Staying occupied during deployment.

One of the biggest challenges during deployment is just finding ways to pass the long passage of time. I have done one deployment without kids & am currently on our second with a freshly turned 2 year old and 5 month old. It is actually harder, I think, to find things to do when you are solo than when your hands are full of kidlets. While it is true, being home all by yourself with kids day in and day out makes you feel like you are living your own personal Groundhog Day movie, there are so many things to do to break up the day. Even trips to the grocery store can turn into major events full of stimulation and fun for your kids, while you are begging for bedtime & a drink. My trick is to go grocery shopping right after dinner. Not only is the store less busy in the evening, but by the time you get down and home, it is straight to bed, leaving you the precious moments of peace necessary to unwind.

One of my favorite things that I did this deployment was to sign up for a family pass to the local children’s museum. It is in the closest bigger town an hour away, but coordinated just right, the Hoo takes a nap down, runs around like a crazy person for a few hours, then crashes up on the way back.

We also started a popcorn and movie night every weekend to mark down the passage of another week. While I may have seen Happy Feet and Garfield enough times to qualify as torture, and have had enough books chucked in my face when I have dozed off to leave a permanent mark, I think it helps the Hoo realize something about time.

Playdates are also key when you have kids & your spouse is deployed. The other women in your unit with children become your lifeline. And with the wonderful new park that opened up on our base, I can think of nothing better than letting the Hoo loose with lots of other kids, lots of slides & a nice juice pouch to squeeze all over herself at the end. Going to restaurants is much more enjoyable and less embarrassing when you are with a group of friends, for instead of the rest of the place glaring at you as your child throws French fries on the floor and demonstrates animal noises, there are so many of them they don’t know which way to look. An added bonus is when you have a younger nursling, your friends just jump into mom mode of the crowd, and help feed your toddler or push them in the swing without you even asking. And playdates at peoples’ homes are just as fun. There are lots of new toys or friends for your child to play with, and for you, coffee & conversation with your friends. Stroller Strides, or even starting your own walking group are great ways to pass the time with your kids while getting in shape. Starting your own walking group gives you a great opportunity to include the spouses without kids in your unit, and talk about things that don’t revolve around your child’s potty/eating/sleeping habits.

And if you are like me and sometimes just can’t take your child for one more minute, check out the local drop in day cares in the area. Our base does have drop in at the CDC, but I use one out in town since they don’t allow cloth diapers. Then I get my Starbucks & a pedicure in peace, without a little munchkin yelling ‘ka-cocks’ (cupcakes) and spitting milk on the floor. They also have a pizza and movie night on the weekends & stay open even later so you can have a date night, or a girls’ deployment night out. Churches are a great place to look for free/cheap childcare as well. Some local ones in our area have Mom’s Morning Out. Time without your children is vital when your SO is deployed. You can be the world’s most perfect parent, but spending every minute with your children without a break can drain everything out of you. We all need some ‘me’ time to refresh & recharge-it doesn’t make you a bad mother!

There are so many other things you can do to with kids. Check out your base paper for children’s events. Go to public gardens, reading times at your local library, aquariums/zoos, local festivals/fairs, state parks & city happenings. Even check out local farms & children’s orientated business to see if they have any special days for the kids. For older kids, you can enroll them in sports, art/music/dance classes, Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts, school clubs, and be sure to check out your local church for anything I might be missing!

Solo, seriously, get a job, volunteer, or go to school! The days are too long to be at home all day. There is only so much you can clean and so many America’s Next Top Model reruns you can tolerate. When Pilot deployed the first time, I was going back to school full time to finally finish my degree. I was pregnant, and between the doctor’s appointments & school assignments, the days flew by. I also volunteered on weekends at the local wildlife refuge. I am the kind of person where if I volunteered at the Humane Society, I would be taking all the animals home. I needed to be at a place where it was illegal if I took anything home. Plus, I learned so much about the local wildlife that I can now share with my children. If going to a 4 year ‘real’ college isn’t your thing, try the local community college. Many of them not only offer basic studies requirements if you are trying to go back to school at a much cheaper rate (what I did) but also offer many vocational classes, like cooking, child care, and the like. Pick something you have always wanted to do and go for it! One of the things I loved about going to class was it gave me a chance to be totally away from the deployment. I could focus on something that was entirely for me, and meet people that were not associated with the military. While your fellow spouses are indispensible at giving you the support and understanding you need (and know exactly what you are going through-I had someone in a class compare their boyfriend leaving for Spring Break to what I was going through-oh to be 18 and in love…), it is great to meet those people that you can bond with over a mutual interest and totally unload on because they have no idea who/what you are talking about. You can’t spend the whole deployment (with or without kids) focused on nothing but the deployment for you will drive yourself nuts.

So check with local volunteer groups (human and animal), look into classes through community or 4 year colleges, and explore what base has to offer. Always wanted to perfect your cooking? See if any local restaurants are having a cooking class. Check your local quilt/yarn/fabric stores for any knitting or sewing classes. Any art studios around? See about a pottery or painting class. Look for a part time job. Your husband gets paid more during deployment, so if you work too you can take the entire extra and plan a nice vacay for your post deployment leave-another way to stay occupied! Or just save, invest, any of the other oh so fun adult things. It does take some looking and planning, but you will find something to do!

The best way to stay occupied those last couple of months? Homecoming outfit shopping! Especially if you have kids. Is there anything cuter than two little girls all decked out in matching ruffly dresses for daddy? I think not! The not so fun way to stay busy the last couple of months? Sorting through all the crap your husband sends back, like a remote control helicopter, military manuals, stinky boat/desert water clothes, foam mattress pad, dead bugs, sand, dirt, letters & the like. But hey, those boxes mean he is not so far behind!

Armed Forces Day 2011

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When I sit back & think about Armed Forces Day I remember one thing. I remember sitting in church the next Sunday as they had all prior & current service members stand for acknowledgement. As I think back now I can see the church bulletin in my hand. A patriotic graphic of some sort, accompanied with a related Bible verse. All around me I see older gentlemen stand & younger men just the same. People clap & stand in appreciation. Me, only a child at the time, having no clue what path my life would take me down. There was no glimpse, not even a micro sized look, that I would someday be a Soldier's Wife.


The historic side of Armed Forces day is as follows: In 1949, the holiday was created in order to cover all of the Armed Services once they all joined under the same department. (The Department of Defense) "Teamed for Defense" was the first ever Armed Forces theme & was to be celebrated with parades, air shows, & receptions. Much like today.
(More Info via the Dept of Defense website)

This year, the theme just happens to be "United in Strength." To me this seems more fitting than ever before. If it were not for the unity and strength of our Armed Forces, I firmly believe that we would not be where we are today. Their strength has helped up pull out of extremely scary times. Though there are still fears to be felt we, ourselves, are stronger now. Stronger as a Nation United.

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I know that as for myself, I feel more the part of a "Unit" than ever before. Not as much as when my husband was part of the 82nd Airborne at Fort Bragg but definitely more than before I met & married my Soldier. Over the past 3 years I have met many wonderful people. During the year of his last deployment I was states away in Texas but there was still an excellent support system set up for all of the families of those from my husband's unit. The had a very successful way of keeping up United & Strong. For that I am thankful.

So when you & your family wake up May 21, 2011 take time out to remember those who serve our country and those who support them. No matter if you are attending a parade or no special event at all please still stop and say a little word of 'Thanks'. I personally do not believe a special day is needed to show my appreciation but it is a wonderful thing that our Troops have been given such a dedication.


Thank You Troops for all that you do & fight for!!
You are greatly appreciated!!

Amanda- Care Package Ideas

I'd like to thank Jessica for giving me the opportunity to Guest Blog about my favorite part about deployments! With my family facing yet another one I am already preparing! The Man (my husband) and the guys he is going with this time say they live for those flat rate boxes with a little taste of home!
You can find me over at Raising B.R.A.T.S. rambling on about raising our 2 kids in this military lifestyle and how I try and keep everything together and "normal" while Daddy is away at war. Thanks for reading and I hope you guys can get some ideas from this post!

Care Package Do's and Don'ts
Don't
-Try not to embarass your Significant Other. Remember, they have to carry around whatever it is you send them and the guys tend to give crude nicknames in their weakest moments...it is just a coping mechanisim
-Send Chocolate. It will melt before getting there.
-Send huge things. Space is limited and they may not make it home with it.
Do
-Keep it personal. You know your Significant Other, send things you know they will love.
-Make it fun. Give them something to do in their downtime. Movies, books, play cards, water guns, ect.
-Send them often!! They miss the little things and to get a little piece of home at mail call means the world to them.
THINGS TO REMEMBER
-Ziploc Bag everything individually. You would hate for something to explode and ruin everything in the box.
-Give them a heads up if there is something in the box that will embarass either him or you. You would hate for him to open a box with *sexy pictures* and have an entire unit owe you dinner...
-Use the flat rate boxes from the post office! You will save tons in shipping!

WHAT TO INCLUDE!
-Drink mixes. Gatorade, tea, Kool-aid. They have water, but sometimes water gets old.
-Snack Packs. Cookies, Crackers, Goldfish
-Single size boxes of cereal. They make a great grab and go snack. (They now make $1.00 sizes boxes that are "man-sized")
-Socks.
-Undershirts.
-Boot insoles.
-Jerky (beef/turkey/chicken)
-Hard Candy
-Plastic bowls of dips (salsa, cheese, bean dip)
-Good toilet paper.
-Deck of cards.
-Athletic equipement (soccer, baseball, football).
-Magazines
-Chapstick
-Eye drops
-Wallet sized pictures in small or handmade frames.
-Drawings from the kids.
-Tuna pouches.
-Fresh baked goods (place a peice of bread in the bag to keep it fresh and moist).

MAKE A THEMED PACKAGE

*Comforts of Home*
Small Bottle of Febreeze
Candle
Snuggle Dryer Sheets
Phone Card
Blanket (A nice comfy one)
Glade Stick Ups
Pair of Slippers or Cozy Socks
Hot Cocoa or Coffe
Decorative Coffee Mug
Pillowcase with your perfume/cologne sprayed on it
Book on Tape
*"Big Kid" Package*
Squirt Guns
Silly Putty
Silly String
Whoopie Cushion
Funny Face Eyeglasses
Sidewalk Chalk
Crayons & Color Book
Jacks
Marbles
Balloons
Frisbee
Football/Soccer Ball (mini)
Hacky Sack
*A Day at the Beach*
Sunscreen,
beach towel,
snacks,
flip flops,
aloe vera gel
 
*Medicine Cabinet*
Asprin
No-Water Excedrin
band-aids,
Neospirin,
A&D Ointment,
cold medicine,
cough drops,
Rolaids,
small first aid kits, etc
 
*Bathroom in a Box*
toliet paper (the nice soft stuff!)
disposable razors,
foot powder,
new washcloths,
travel size shampoo/conditioner,
toothpaste,
toothbrush,
mouthwash,
baby wipes,
no-rinse shampoo, etc.
*Breakfast on the GO!*
Pop Tarts
Hostess donuts,
multi-grain bars,
Tang,
small boxes of cereals,
coffee,
hot chocolate mixes,
non dairy creamer,
a morning newspaper (unread, still neatly folded).
 
*This Little Piggy Went to the Sand Box*
Foot Powder
Dr Scholl’s boot inserts,
Moleskin,
foot lotion,
fresh/clean socks (white athletic and black boot),
toe nail clippers,
odor eater balls for shoes/boots,
anything else to pamper the feet.
 
*Vegas/Poker Night*
poker chips,
a few decks of cards,
snacks to eat during the game,
dice for other games,
some travel size shampoos and stuff taken from a hotel,
poker chip or playing card shaped candy --
cigars/cigarettes if you're guy is a smoker (lollipops if he isn't!!).
 
Remember to have fun with the inside of the box too. Go to your local craft store and load up on scrapbook paper, stickers, glue, tape,and anything else you can use to decorate!!

You can find fun toys to send at Oriental Trading.

The possibilities are endless. These are just a few that came to mind.

Holley- A New Naval Wife

Hello! Nice to meet you!

Meet me and my hubby Ben. 


We just received our OCS date for the Navy. Ben will be reporting to Newport Rhode Island on October 23rd for 3 months of training. Then we will be whisked away to either Pascagoula Mississippi or San Diego.
Until then we are staying put in Utah determined to have a FABULOUS summer together and with family.

Ben and I met here is Utah after I finished attending cosmetology school and while he was finishing up his undergrad in Civil Engineering. A master's program and 4 years later we are ready to get out into the world and have a fresh start!

Marrying Ben was the best thing that has ever happened to me. He is my best friend and makes me want to be a better person every day. He is always supportive and patient with me. With all my eccentric fitness tangents... that is saying a lot.


I am COMPLETELY new to this whole military lifestyle. Joining the Navy was something we never planned on. Ben grew up in an army family so this is second nature to him but I am a fish out of water. Ben is excited to serve his country and "play G.I. Joe" along the way. I have had reservations and have been more hesitant about this process. I think I have commitment issues, 4 years can seem like such a long time! I am sure it will fly by and we will look back on this time fondly. Things happen for a reason and we are excited to see what adventures are ahead of us. 

I love all things fitness and nutrition. 
I enjoy running, spinning, weight training and kick boxing... just to name a few.


 I LOVE to cook and create my own "healthified" recipes.



Being a hair stylist truly is fun. I enjoy making people feel beautiful and bringing out their best qualities. Chatting with friends and making them feel great, is my idea of a good time.


I will be running my 6th marathon in a couple weeks and hope to get a few more in this year. I love encouraging others in their fitness journeys. I think we all have something to learn from each other. Lots of people helped me along my way to find out what I love and I hope in return to help others reach their goals as well.


I can't wait to me a mommy but until then I will keep on doing what I love and being a supportive wife along the way.



I am excited to join a community of people with whom I can relate and share experiences with. I already admire the wives and families of servicemen who sacrifice for us all on a daily basis. I want to hear their stories and add my support.

Thank you for getting to know me a little! I hope you stop by and that I can meet you too!